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A Path Diverged

Every day we wake up, we are faced with a choice… whether to wake up on the right side or the wrong side of the bed. It may not be a conscious decision, but as our day goes along we come to forks in the road where we are challenged with circumstances that are less than ideal. It is at these crossroads where we have to choose how we are going to deal with the coming day.

Path diverged

When we choose to take the negative path, our day starts to spiral downward. What was once one problem, turns into another, making it easier and easier to continue taking the negative path. After walking down this road for awhile, we tend to group our problems together. So instead of having the one original problem, we have added everything else in our life that isn’t going quite right to our list of problems, creating a snowball effect. That bad hour or day, has turned into a bad week or month.

stop digging

Yet, when we choose to take the positive path, our day goes a lot smoother. We still encounter the same problems, but we are able to take a step back and think of how it could be worse. And that ultimately, in the scheme of life, the problem really isn’t as big as we are making it out to be.

Focus on good

We may not have a choice what circumstances we are faced with, but we do have a choice in how we view the situation and deal with our problems. Being positive is a choice we have to make and the more we make it, the easier it becomes and the happier we are.

To help you wake up on the right side of the bed, here are just a few tips you can incorporate into your life to be more positive.

  • Write it Out – Every night write down 5 positive things that happened that day. Focusing on the good takes the emphasis off of the bad.

5 positives

  • Retrain your Brain – If you notice your thoughts going down a negative path, learn to recognize it and take a detour. Try to think about something else that is more positive.

Begins in the mind

  • Challenge Yourself – There is a silver lining in every situation. Learn how to find it.

Silver lining

  • Outward Focus – Get outside of your head and focus on helping someone else.

Love others

  • Get Active – Being active contributes to your overall happiness, which in turn helps you to be more positive 🙂

Excercise

  • Positive People – Surround yourself with positive people. People that will uplift you, encourage you, and inspire you.

Surround yourself

  • Forgive Yourself – A lot of negativity is directed at ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and you can do better next time.

Believe in yourself

  • Read – Inspire yourself with positive quotes and Bible verses to encourage you throughout your day.

Good thoughts_Roald Dahl

  • Sing – Sing along to a positive song. It’s an instant mode lifter. Even if you aren’t feeling positive, a few fun and uplifting songs can shift your mode for the better.

Sings my soul

Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.

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Live in the Moment

As I sit on a bench looking out at Lake Washington, my thoughts are scattered. I think about my past. The relationships I’ve had and the things I could have done to change the outcome, but I also think about my future. Starting a new job and finding ways to push myself to become who I want to be.

It’s interesting though, that even when we are physically present, we can be living in a different time in our mind. Whether in the past, replaying memories; or in the future, planning our next steps to success. Yet living in the past or the future, can prevent us from truly experiencing the present moment we are in.

It is true that reflecting on the past can be beneficial, helping us learn from both our mistakes and success’. But reflection is merely a visit to the past. It is when we are living in the past that it can become dangerous. Maybe we are living in the past because we believe we have already had our best moments and that the future can’t compare. Or we have regrets. Things we wish we could change. So we replay the situation over and over trying to change the unchangeable.

Looking at the past

Yet we mustn’t get stuck living in the past. Memories, often times, are distorted. The further we go back into our memory the hazier our memories become, making it difficult for us to see those moments, whether good or bad, without bias. As they truly were. We tend to either remove all the negative and see only the positive, or remove all the positive and see only the negative. Neither interpretation which is accurate. We need to learn to leave the past in the past, where it belongs. What is done is done. By living in the past, we are preventing ourselves from moving forward, holding us at a standstill. Just like a train stuck at the platform, we aren’t reaching our full potential.

Past calls

However, living in the future is no better. Where we are always concerned about the next step. Our next career goal, who we want to marry, what age we want to have kids, where we want to live. These are all good things to think about and aspire to, yet sometimes we get carried away. We think once we reach a certain point in the future we will be happy. Once we have this job, we’ll be happy. Once we’re married, we’ll be happy. But once again this kind of thinking just steals away from our present sense of peace and contentment. Because we are always looking ahead; to what is just beyond our grasp. This anxious, goal driven mentality creates a cycle where we are never satisfied with the present and are always looking to the future to make us happy.

Past and future

So I’m going to stop letting the past have power over my present and stop borrowing troubles from tomorrow. Because in this very moment I have so much to be grateful for. The liquid movement of my pen, the sound of the waves lapping the shore, the seagulls flying around calling to their friends, the fresh air tickling my lungs, and the sunlight warming my face.

I would encourage you to start letting go of your past and stop trying so hard to control your future. Live in the moment. Right here. Right now. Be present where you are. Because this very moment is where you are. Embrace it. 🙂

To be alive

The past is the past and the future is the future. But I am going to be present. I’m going to live in the moment.


What I Learned in 2014

Different person

With a New Year approaching, I always like to take time to reflect on what I’ve learned over the past year. And this year is no different. Looking back on the year reminds me of how far I’ve come, but also inspires me on towards my next adventure. In some areas of my life I grew only a little, but in others I grew exponentially. The next few paragraphs are just a few of the things I’ve learned this year.

 

It’s harder to meet people after college.

 

“And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate

Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake

I shake it off, I shake it off” –Taylor Swift

 

Music has the profound ability to express our emotions even when we feel like we can’t.

Music

In a relationship, you should love and be loved exactly as you are. Not based on who you expect them to be or who they think you should be.

 

It’s okay to cry. It means you cared enough for it to hurt you.

 

There is nothing like a good friend to comfort you and distract you from a broken heart.

Inability to see worth

Your self-worth is not based upon your accomplishments, so even when you fail, you are still worth more than ever.

 

Certainty is sexy.

 

Never stop trying new things and building up your life.

 

Some of the best moments in life are totally unscripted.

Memories

Even when God feels distant, He is always right there in your greatest times of need.

Crushed in spirit

If your gut is telling you that something isn’t right, you really should listen to it.

 

The ultimate battle is fought in your mind.

 

Although credit cards have a negative connotation, as long as you pay them on time you can gain all kinds of great rewards just from buying what you usually do.

 

There is nothing like a good workout to boost your mood and send you off ready to conquer a new day.

 

Live in the moment. Live with passion.

Stop waiting

I’ve learned so much this year! Every experience I’ve had, both good and bad, have shaped me into who I am today, and it’s crazy to think that I’m not the same person I was at the beginning of the year. With all that I’ve leanred, I’m excited for a new year. A year of adventure and intrigue. A year of no boundaries or limitations. A year of joy and excitement.

So as the sun sets today, it not only signifies the end of another day, but the end of another year. A year of joy and sorrow; beauty and pain; triumphs and failures; things I wish I could forget and things I never want to forget. What a beautiful year! Even so, I’m ready for the next one ❤


No Regrets

In your 20’s, each decision you make feels as if it has more weight than decisions you’ve had to make in the past. For with each decision, you are taken on a path that becomes a determining factor in what your life will look like in the future. Where you go to school can determine where you decide to live. What you major in can determine where you’re career starts. Who you hang out with can shape who you become. Every decision, no matter how insignificant, seems to be shaping you into who you are.

Do you ever wonder what life would have been like if you’d taken a different path? If you’d continued dating that person who, in hindsight, was so wrong for you or decided to accept the job offer that would have moved you across the country? Have you ever thought, if the factors were different, who would you be? It’s crazy to think about…

Two Roads Diverged

Looking at my life and all the decisions I’ve made, I’d have to say I’m happy with who I’ve become. Yet to say that I have no regrets wouldn’t be entirely true. People say to live with no regrets and it’s a lovely notion. Yet, everyone make mistakes and to say that I don’t regret some of those mistakes would be wrong. I don’t regret the mistakes I’ve made because I learned from them and they made me a stronger person, but what I do regret is the hurt my mistakes may have caused along the way.

But maybe by no regrets we don’t necessarily mean that you don’t regret anything, but that you stop dwelling on the past and the mistakes you made, switching your focus to the present and the future. That you push yourself to try things you’ve never done before or do something that scares you. That you push aside the box you’ve created for yourself and dare to dream bigger. No regrets.

No regrets

To make this mentality a reality, I’m going to push myself this year to do something that has a very high rate of failure, but if I never take that risk, I will never know if I could have made it. So hears to a year of pushing limits, taking chances, and no regrets. Chances not taken

Live your life. Take chances. Be crazy. Don’t wait because right now is the oldest you’ve been and the youngest you’ll ever be again.