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Valentine’s Day

Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or Single Awareness Day, February 14th means something different to everyone. Some people celebrate with their loved one, whether it’s a candle lite dinner at home or a night on the town. Some people refuse to acknowledge it as a holiday or write it off as a way for stores to sell more chocolate and flowers. But it strikes a cord in everyone’s heart, whether it produces bitterness or love.

Fear not my friend! Valentine’s Day is one day a year, and if you think about it, you will most likely spend more Valentine’s Day’s with someone than without, theoretically speaking. Yet with its focus on love, or lack thereof, our self-esteem is targeted, creating an awareness of our singleness in a couple dominated culture. But don’t let it get to you.

The key to “surviving” this holiday, but also a good rule of thumb for life in general, is to have an outward focus. Instead of looking at your life and moping about not having someone to share that one day with, focus on how you can better love others. What can you do to brighten someone else’s day? If you wish that someone would buy you flowers for Valentine’s Day, then buy someone else flowers and make their day. In doing so, you will not only make them feel special, but will also get that warm fuzzy feeling that you made some kind of difference, even if it was small.

Act of Kindness

Despite my single status, I’ve always enjoyed Valentine’s Day because it gives me a reason to do something different. To me it means celebrating by wearing as much red and pink as possible, maybe even wearing my crazy heart socks my mom got me. Dancing around my kitchen listening to R&B love songs in my pink apron making sugar cookies with…you guessed it, pink frosting! Watching sappy romances with a friend all cuddled up in a warm blanket thinking “Someday…”


Of course sometimes I wish my life could look like that romance movie, where they randomly meet in a coffee shop and live happily ever after. But life isn’t like that and I know that although waiting is hard, it will be worth the wait.

Willingness to Wait

In the meantime, don’t let Valentine’s Day discourage you or your past disappointments cloud your vision of what your future will look like. Focus outward and look to find ways to be a blessing to others. And when the evening of February  14th comes around and you’re all alone, grab a friend. Curl up on the couch and watch your favorite romantic comedy, eat heart shaped pizza, and enjoy all the chocolate you want. You deserve it 😉